Bondage Safety Tips.

This article is part 2 of  a previous article you will find here in Fetishes Articles – Why is bondage fun.

There are a many common-sense things to know if you want to get into bondage. Most are pretty obvious.  The basic idea, though, is to experiment and always be aware of safety. The first few times you won’t really know what you’re doing, and that’s fine there is only one way to learn.

Take your time trying different positions, different kinds of rope, whatever it is.  If you’ve got a new idea that you want to try out well why not try it on yourself?  If you can get into a position comfortably, you can probably make your partner comfortable in that position! Practice makes perfect.

Do not ever leave a bound person alone. Though it may be someone’s hot fantasy to tie someone up in some precarious position (possibly with vibrators or other devices buzzing away) and leave them to stew, in reality you must consider: what if the house is burgled? catches on fire? earthquake? any sort of emergency? Fun is fun, but a helpless person is just that: helpless. A willing partner is too precious to take risks with.

If you have someone tied up make sure their extremities don’t start getting cold or turning blue if a session is lasting a long time;  both are signs that blood isn’t flowing the way it should! If your partners hands are bound inside mittens or some other place that’s not accessible to you, ask them to wiggle their fingers or toes or whatever to see if  they’re losing any feeling.

It can be tricky to tie someone up without making it too tight; in general, a good rule is to tie loosely with lots of turns on the rope. You can tighten such a tie with just another turn around all the rest.  It can make a bondage session turn into a big waste of time if your partners feet or hands end up with pins and needles.  This can be distracting, and can make it hard for your partner to concentrate on what you are making them feel and if you are combining it with role play it will be  difficult to get back into  again.

Silk scarves, bandannas, etc. also have the problem with tightening under tension; sometimes they get so tight they have to be cut off. If you’re a novice, you may want to avoid these hassles by purchasing a pair of basic ankle and wrist cuffs (in leather, Velcro, or whatever) at an adult toy shop; and if you get embarrassed, remember the old standby excuse: “It’s for a friend or it’s a joke wedding gift!”

Handcuffs are sexy, but they can also be a problem.  Cheap cuffs are liable to break while being worn–then you have to file them off. If you want to play with handcuffs, get a good quality pair, with a double lock so you can snap them on and then lock them so they won’t get tighter under pressure (as cheap cuffs will). Handcuffs are also bare metal, and aren’t good to struggle against, as they can easily pinch nerves and be uncomfortable for the wearer,  padded, buckling bondage cuffs are better for those sorts of games.

Be very careful about tying anything around the neck; anything that puts any pressure AT ALL on the front of the neck can lead to unconsciousness quickly, as the carotid arteries go right to the brain. Likewise be careful with gags or things tied in the mouth; as well as restricting breathing, they can trigger a gag reflex, which could be really nasty if your partner can’t get the gag out. Have safe words or signals for use while gagged.

Also, be aware that if someone is standing for any length of time in any sort of tight bondage, it can lead to less circulation to their head; if you suddenly do something intense to that person, it may trigger a head rush which could easily result in fainting.  If you use hooks use the ones which can be released instantly even with y someone’s full weight is on the keep a pair of bandage scissors handy in case ropes or straps need to be cut loose.

Be careful what you tie your partner to; if an exposed water pipe is handy, be aware it may heat up or under pressure it may burst. Likewise with candles; be careful when you’re waving flame around someone who’s bound, as they can’t flinch the way unbound people can.

If you don’t have anything handy to tie someone to, you can always tie their wrists behind their back and then to their waist.  If your bed doesn’t have any posts, you can wrap ropes around the legs of the bed and spread-eagle your partner that way. In general, there are a million ways to tie someone up, and with a little practice–on your partner or on yourself!–will let you improvise in almost any situation.

Restraints and devices coming soon….

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